Ahi is born :)

Today I find an apt moment to describe the central character of my blog Ahi. Ahi is feminine energy and identifies with my thoughts and pain. She is like my identical twin who is just a clone of my thoughts.

Many of us may have watched Amir Khan starring show " Stayameva Jayte" today. What a show! Wonderful team efforts and presentation. I felt some nostalgia reminding me of times where My whole family used to watch Ramayana and Mahabharata at sharp 9am!

But one thing that was not touched in today's show was " why Indians are so desperate for boys"? Why so many people make a living by killing foetuses? Where do society moralists go when they see such things?

Why women join men in the efforts to wipe unborn or small baby girls?

It is a religious, social, financial pride and safety that boys provide to their parents and as per society mindset girls won't!I will delve into all these spheres of our ecosystem and how unknowingly or knowingly they affect everywhere no matter whether u are educated, literates or illiterate. The blog will cover analysis mostly from the Hindu families as I myself belong to one. It is not that people from other religions don't do it, yes many examples are there from other religions but I have never been so close to them and so can't generalise for them.

Religious:

• In Hindu families most of the rituals require men for initiation. For Fire ceremonies ( Yagya) head of the family(male) is required. Woman is not the one who will initiate this. They sit next to male members.
• A woman in periods in considered impure. With so much development in sanitary wear for women there is still not much change on religious side. Depending upon family and case to case basis some women don't pray or attend rituals during these days, some pray but don't attend rituals and some do all. But majority falls in 1st or second category.
• It is a unwritten rule that women should not accompany dead relatives or friends for cremation.
• A myth or may be widespread belief says that a son only can take his parents to heaven. He is essential for cremation of dead. Most of the ceremonies of dead can be completed only by sons.

Social

• Many Hindu families consider taking food from their married girl's house as sin.
• A girl once married goes to her in-laws house and most of them change their surname. Girls parents find this as end of their family line.
• Many Hindu families don't allow their female folks to work and earn a living. They consider that as decrease in prestige and pride.
• The child born from wedlock is considered belonging to father's family and has his surname.
• Due to large incidents of eve teasing, gang rape, female prostitution many people feel safe having a baby boy.
• Many families consider modelling and acting as bad career choices specially for women. due to increased consumerist and western influences they fear that their girls may end of in such careers. They kill bud itself rather than tackling at later stage.
• Social stigma for parents and families of a raped girl is high in comparison to the social stigma faced by rapist's family :( Many who live in violence hit zones consider killing foetus better than spoiling her life.

Financial

• Dowry is biggest reason for female foeticide.
• Many people think girl as a burden, these days they spend almost equally on education of boy and girl. But they think once girl is married her decisions won't be her own but of her husband and extended family. Even if she is working many a times she is not decision making authority regarding her salary. Girls parents feel that they have no financial support for old age. On other hand even if their boy is not living with them they feel he is head of his own family and so can send money or assist them in their old age.

Religious, social and financial factors force an inflation hit and already over populated country to go for female foeticide.There may be many more factors which make common people do such heinous acts. It would be wonderful if Satyameva Jayate deals with core problem in their next season. As of now big salute to the whole team!


I close my eyes and see a world.
Where Ahi is love and compassion.
Where Ahi is twinkle in eyes
Where Ahi is financial freedom and not a burden
Where Ahi is happiness abound and not misery.
Where Ahi is peace and no tension
Where Ahi is not a bad omen but she is a blessing.
A blessing for all, A blessing for Mankind!!

Ahi is born:) born in my dream!